Ritu Mehta is a Certified Career Coach with Greenlatte. Extensively supported by the educational credentials such as Certification in Human Resources from Cornell University, USA and Chartered Accountancy from ICAI, India, she brings more than 15 years of corporate experience in helping other professionals navigating the congested maze. Her mission is to help professionals powerfully experience where they are now in life, envision exactly where they want to be, and learn how to close the gap between the two. Her key strengths include – Leadership Coaching, People Management, Strengthening 4Cs- Confidence, Courage, Critical thinking and Communication.
In this interview she walks us through different concepts, ideas and gives us some solid career advice that we all need a reminder of.
What is the simple most powerful key to have a happy career according to you?
Relationships. We interact with human beings for everything who are wired through emotions, vibes and trust with each other. This is where emotional intelligence comes in. I think EQ and SQ are as important as IQ. Even may be more. Skill of being aware and ability to manage your own emotions and others is priceless both at work and at home. I say investment in developing your people skills will take you places. Investing in relationships is different from modern day networking. It doesn’t end with exchanging business cards.
What to do if you don’t know what are your goals in life?
There are two ways to go about it. Either you clearly know your big calling and you break your main goal in achievable and trackable milestones and chase it. Now, what if you don’t know your goal as of now? In that case, consider building a routine of simple powerful habits comprising of things you enjoy doing. When your each day is fulfilling and inspiring, you are damn sure going to have a meaningful life.
You have been coaching from years, what do you think are the 3 most common fears when it comes to choosing the right career or fulfilling your dreams?
People generally do not have courage or ability to listen to their intuition. They do not have clear assessment of their own talents and strengths too. I think lack of self – awareness and right guidance at the right time is one of the big barrier to right choice.
Another one is the pressure of living up to family and social norms. You know the drill here. Most of the times people take decisions thinking that what others will think. Guess what? It doesn’t matter.
I can summarize this in one word – 3C.
Lack of clarity, courage and confidence leads to wrong choices and fear.
Do you believe in Law of attraction? How it works for you?
The concept may seem way too abstract yet I absolutely believe in it. I’ve been converted into a believer. I think reading The Magic by Rhonda Byrne brought extremely refreshing and powerful perspective in my life. I was clearly able to look back and reflect on my thinking and goal achieving pattern. Now, I wouldn’t say that it is totally fool proof way to go about it but yet now I have good number of success stories of myself and my clients. It has worked for me right from the small mundane things of life to closing a customer deal at the terms I was aspiring for. Cool, isn’t it? It is simple, right. Stay on the path, keep applying the techniques, do the work… and everything will work out exactly as it’s meant to.
How do you stay strong when you want to quit?
As cliché as it may sound, I am a hopelessly optimistic person. I try to look at positives and thankfully I am able to spot them. As a personality trait, I can’t remain out of the game for too long. I sulk, imagine, prepare for the worst and bounce back in little time. I am natural at this but now from my profession, I figured that it is a skill which can be acquired. It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. Just remember to come back stronger and wiser.
Another practical and simple way to stay strong when you are tempted to quit is take a step back and look at the bigger picture. We often make a problem bigger than it actually is.
Affirmation – There is a bad news – Nothing is permanent. There is a good news too – Nothing is permanent.
Please throw some light on the power of positive affirmations and self talk? and what are your three favorite affirmations?
I find it very surprising that people in general pay close attention to what and how they are talking to others. They will be polite, kind and appreciative. But when it comes to talking to themselves, they say mean and hurtful things. Affirmations are nothing but kind and motivating things you tell yourself to emerge winner and stronger. They have power to become your new spoken thoughts and soon reality when repeated with conviction and faith. They train your mind to work for you and not against you.
Tough to pick three but simplest and quick ones I like chanting to get myself going are-
- I am worth it.
- I don’t know how but I know I will.
- I will figure it out. I always do. I am the winner.
What are your daily rituals for living an inspired life?
My each day is different and unique. I get bored very easily so I like to keep challenging myself in a different time routine and environment. I strongly believe in paying it forward and expressing gratitude. Hence, I consciously try to imbibe these attributes in my daily life.
I also believe in energy management. Some days are blocked only for writing, researching, designing and delivering my sessions and then some days I am bursting with more physical energy so they are for chores, organizing and clearing clutter – both mental and physical spaces.
How do you deal with family and career? Do you think we can balance personal and professional life?
The balanced personal and professional life takes careful planning and preparation, but it is possible. Balancing every day is a myth. Balanced life in general is achievable. Some days you will be more focused on your work when you are chasing a deadline. Some days you will be more family focused say when on vacations or managing medical condition at home. Trick here is to be present. Be there fully in the moment where you are without feeling guilty about missing other. Conquering your guilt is a skill worth mastering.
I follow the same plan for myself. I clear out my work engagements on important family days and pull out my supportive ecosystem for family on the days I am super busy at work. I try to stay focused, learned to say NO and ruthlessly eliminated negative elements over the period of time. If someone or something is not contributing to my goal and happiness level, it got to go.
What would be your advice to working mothers?
This one is close to home. Let me put this one in specific pointers –
- You are not a superwoman. It is okay to ask for help.
- Pick your battles. Let go of trivial things and focus on big picture.
- Create an ecosystem in any shape and form of hired help, parents, parents-in-law, spouse, neighbors, colleagues, school staff and friends.
- Have backups too.
- Keep your ego in check, ignore small things and you are ready to rock.
- Take care of yourself.
- Be kind to yourself.
- Love yourself a little more.
- You are doing great!
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